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18 Sep 2019, 8:57 pm

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I've been told I lurch rather than walk many a time, but I just move to the next point as fast as possible. I think they are confused by our choice of movement.

yes, i've been told this too.

Do you feel you lurch in any way?

I don't at all.

I think I am pretty fluid in my movements.

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19 Sep 2019, 2:28 am

Hmmm, I think I probably do, but I'm not really sure how to walk any other way so I don't think about it too much.

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19 Sep 2019, 3:11 am

https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700

For what it's worth, there's research that says, yes, we do tend to make a bad first impression and it is based on visual and auditory cues, not on the things we actually say.

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19 Sep 2019, 3:13 am

abnormally curved spine and one leg longer than the other, so i do a combo hop n' lurch movement, rather odd-looking.

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19 Sep 2019, 4:15 am

i no longer care much if people don't like me, just as long as they behave themselves.

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19 Sep 2019, 9:03 am

Nobody today says I look weird. I do, however, look stiff in photographs of myself. I don't like how I look in pictures.

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19 Sep 2019, 11:25 am

I think the thing about me that people find off-putting is that I tend to be aloof. I wouldn't say it has as much to do with my physical appearance, but more with my mannerisms.

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19 Sep 2019, 11:29 am

I mostly resemble a late middle-aged and hunchbacked Bavarian gnome, or maybe Gargamel on a good day (see image below).

Gargamel, as portrayed by Hank Azaria

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19 Sep 2019, 11:33 am

Fnord wrote:

I mostly resemble a late middle-aged and hunchbacked Bavarian gnome, or maybe Gargamel on a good day (see image below).

Gargamel, as portrayed by Hank Azaria

oh there's no way anyone would look twice at you.

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19 Sep 2019, 11:40 am

red_doghubb wrote:

oh there's no way anyone would look twice at you.

And yet, I'm married; which only goes to show that looks don't count for everything.

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19 Sep 2019, 2:25 pm

NorthWind wrote:

I used to think people gave me negative reactions because i am very big guy and thought that they might have been slightly intimidated. But it seems its probably more to do with my less than sunny facial expressions, maladroitness and general self conciousness now that i have a diagnosis. The good thing is i can work on that, for better outcomes with new people. Also knowing when people just have an instinctual distrust of you and that one cant control that. Best not to waste time trying to change it, concentrate on those who will give me a chance.

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19 Sep 2019, 2:27 pm

Fnord wrote:

red_doghubb wrote:

oh there's no way anyone would look twice at you.

And yet, I'm married; which only goes to show that looks don't count for everything.

It was a jest :wink:

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19 Sep 2019, 5:26 pm

BDavro wrote:

plokijuh wrote:

BDavro wrote:

I've been told I lurch rather than walk many a time, but I just move to the next point as fast as possible. I think they are confused by our choice of movement.

yes, i've been told this too.

Do you feel you lurch in any way?

I don't at all.

I think I am pretty fluid in my movements.

I feel it but it's because I'm currently at school, I have a very heavy bag (because if I remove anything i will lose it because my dyspraxia) and so it's how I keep balance (which again is hard bc of dyspraxia). The habit just stayed so now even without it I still move in the same way. My knees also turn inwards, putting my feet at a weird angle as well. In general my movements are a bit clunky though and I even fall over when standing still much to others amusement.

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19 Sep 2019, 5:31 pm

jimmyjazzuk wrote:

...Also knowing when people just have an instinctual distrust of you and that one cant control that. Best not to waste time trying to change it, concentrate on those who will give me a chance.

I would like to hold that wisdom in mind. I may have to print that and post it up on my wall.

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20 Sep 2019, 7:26 am

I would be honoured!

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20 Sep 2019, 8:35 am

Done.

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