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Would you feel insulted?
Yes. The dean's comment suggests that she didn't perceive me as the type of student who would have "good" grades 8%  8%  [ 4 ]
No. It was reasonable of her to assume that my request to take a semester off was related to academic problems 92%  92%  [ 49 ]
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07 Jan 2009, 3:53 pm

At least your 'friend' doesn't say things like 'he's got a monges syndrome' or 'he only has Asperger's syndrome because he was too poor to afford down syndrome'.



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07 Jan 2009, 5:21 pm

Mw99 is getting really good at these lop-sided polls. And since Mw99 already had the answer:

Mw99 wrote:
It is my opinion that the dean simply made a careless comment which unfortunately said a lot about the way she really perceived me.

I will simpy echo what gary posted: C'mon.
In the "real world" of jobs and obligations you don't get time off for being depressed.



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07 Jan 2009, 7:20 pm

When I dropped out of college, I had a 3.87 and my advisor didn't understand it. I got the "but you're doing so wellllll!" rant.

Uh. No. No, I wasn't. The place was killing me.

(and that low of a GPA isn't "well" considering the classes I was taking)

Deans, advisors, etc. only know grades.



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07 Jan 2009, 7:22 pm

Tantybi wrote:
If it takes you too long to get a degree, future employment may ask why in their minds discarding your resume before asking you. I don't think it would even sound right in a job interview..."Yeah, I took a year off school to deal with my depression."

You could always lie about why you took a year off, but I'm wondering about how they'd know you took a year off. It's illegal for them to ask how old you are, so if they saw that you graduated in 2012 (and they assume you'd be 22) but you're actually 23, how would they know?



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07 Jan 2009, 7:55 pm

Tantybi wrote:
If it takes you too long to get a degree, future employment may ask why in their minds discarding your resume before asking you. I don't think it would even sound right in a job interview..."Yeah, I took a year off school to deal with my depression."


That was my main concern before I took the semester off. The dean told me I could always say I had a surgery.

The person who interviewed me for my current job asked me why I had taken a semester off. I told her that I took a medical leave of absence and luckily she did not inquire further.

They say that your transcript only matters for your first job out of college, anyway.



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07 Jan 2009, 8:10 pm

I don't think it is an insult. There were times I was depressed while in college. I roughed it out, but only because it was the best option for me.


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07 Jan 2009, 11:39 pm

MizLiz wrote:
When I dropped out of college, I had a 3.87 and my advisor didn't understand it. I got the "but you're doing so wellllll!" rant.

Uh. No. No, I wasn't. The place was killing me.

(and that low of a GPA isn't "well" considering the classes I was taking)

Deans, advisors, etc. only know grades.


why exactly did you drop out?



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08 Jan 2009, 9:00 am

mitharatowen wrote:
I see how you might be insulted by that but I doubt the dean meant any offense. He/she was probably just surprised - most other students do not have such good grades. You should take it as a compliment :)


If I saw a list of good grades for a student, I would wonder why he/she wanted time off from school. It is possible that there are personal issues at work which are not grade related. Anyone can become depressed for a large number of reasons, not all of them related to grades.

I would take no umbrage.

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08 Jan 2009, 3:21 pm

I wasn't going to use the degree anyway and if I didn't mention my reasons for dropping out in my original post, why would I mention them in a second one?



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09 Jan 2009, 7:37 pm

MizLiz wrote:
I wasn't going to use the degree anyway and if I didn't mention my reasons for dropping out in my original post, why would I mention them in a second one?


I didn't know it was such a personal matter. I apologize for asking.



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09 Jan 2009, 7:43 pm

I wouldn't find it insulting... the person was probably just shocked that you wanted time off because you were doing so well.



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10 Jan 2009, 1:20 pm

I would see it as a compliment. But I would be very offended if the dean said it as if he/she thought I was dumb.


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