I'm scared I'll act weird around Jewish people

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I don't tell people about my label anymore. That actually makes things a lot easier. People actually seem to understand me better when they don't know my label. At least as far as I know.

I did say that my sister talks about Christianity all time, but I didn't mean it literally. What she actually does is reptitively joke about Christianity when she has the chance. She does look a bit obsessed and silly, but she doesn't look autistic or neurotic.

It's also kind of an inside joke among my sister and people who know her. Some people think my sister is annoying, but I think that's because she makes people feel stupid. Not because of any so-called autistic traits. She doesn't have to live with the pain of all of her behaviors being analyzed and put into one category.

I'm just worried this obsession will make me do something crazy like convert to Judaism or act weird around Jewish people. The way I plan to hide it is to learn Hebrew and some Jewish history. No one has to find out about this. If they do it won't be a big deal. All my mental energy will be used on Hebrew and learning Jewish history.

I won't have all this excess energy that will make me talk too much about Judaism or stare at Jewish people. This will probably die down and turn into a regular interest. Just like my accordion obsession. It used to be a special interest, but now it's just a regular interest.

I don't care about looking weird on the internet. The internet is one of my outlets. I can act super weird and obsessive without any real life consequences. A lot of people do. I'd rather look like a freak online and normal in real life, than autistic in real life and normal to people on WP.

I know that I look like some obsessive and paranoid teenager in denial of her autism to a lot of people on here. I don't care if people here think I'm weird, I just don't want to be misunderstood. Since my neurology isn't black and white I expect a lot of people to misunderstand me.

My father's side of my family immigrated to the U.S. from Prussia in the 1800s. Our surname was altered upon arrival, and when I tried Googling it I came up with the possibility that we might be Jewish. This was very surprising to me as my father's family are all Christians, but when I mentioned it to my father he said, "Maybe," and didn't seem to be interested one way or the other.
Does anyone here have the background to tell me how likely this scenario is, and how I might go about looking into it more closely? I'm interested in my heritage, even if no one else in my family is.

The best thing to do is look for your family tree. If you don't have one you could also take a DNA test. I'm planning on doing that as well. My dad thinks he has a Jewish last name, but I'm not sure if it's really Jewish. I tried googling it, but I kept on getting contradictory answers. Some websites said its Jewish and some say it's just Spanish. I also want to know my DNA to see if I have any strange mutations that explain my health problems.

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Huh?

I'm afraid to discourage people from getting useful help, but I have found it easier to keep things to myself.

What's so interesting about Judaism?

It's interesting for me because I seem to get along with Jewish people. They also have a rich history and culture. Since I'm kind of low on obsessions and interests this obsession is kind of taking over.

You're probably getting along better with that religious group because of the interest itself.

The same if your interest was Catholicism or {insert any other interest group here}.

Nope. I got along with them before the interest.

During dinner my sister joked about finding God. She later asked to go to church. My stepdad thought it would be a good idea to go to church, synagogue and wherever Buddhists go. I'm scared that if we go to the synagogue I'll act "too excited".

I maintain that people get emotional, over the mysery of the unknown, but there's no reason why it has to be a mystery.

We're able to see video of what people do and how they act, in there.

Ideally, you would have a mentor, who would tell you what to do and when.

If possible, you might ask someone for help, in advance, so that you can feel prepared, or learn more about what is expected of you.

I'm super scared that I'll get uncontrollably hyper. Mainly because being uncontrollably hyper isn't appropriate anywhere. Especially at a religious service. I did some research online and it said to dress modestly. I don't understand if that means I should wear a dress or skirt. All of the dresses and skirts I have aren't that modest.

If you do not have a skirt or dress that you think is appropriate just wear a pair of dress pants with a conservative looking top of any kind.

How do you think you might react if you were to meet a Jewish Aspie? Especially if you found that the two of you are basically alike.

The expression is "frum," and it can be used in different ways.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frum

I respect that issues of modesty can be embarrassing to discuss with other people, so have been glad for the internet, at times. It's possible to find examples of frum fashion, or to see how people look, in a synagogue. These ladies are still able to express themselves. I find that they wear interesting things, just without baring much skin, which might seem more natural, as the weather is getting cooler.

I personally came of age, somewhere between the era of grunge and hipster, was not necessarily bearded as a matter of Jewish identity. Later on, I took to wearing a brimmed hat, because it looked interesting to me. So, I look like a stereotype on accident. I'm not going out of my way, per se.

Rabbis in the more-liberal, reform synagogues do not look like me. You may find that people are wearing newer clothes, but look pretty ordinary.

When you say that you get too hyper, are you talking about a complete meltdown or just being in high gear?