Does anyone feel this way?

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Basically WHY DO I BOTHER OPENING MY DAMN MOUTH SHEESH!! !! The kids are wanting to do there pink Christmas Tree (since we always put the trees up on Thanksgiving) and I said we'll do it this weekend dad glared at me and said we'll do it today. WOW! Why do I bother opening my mouth!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! I state my opinion or view AND I ALWAYS GET A HARSH REPLY!! !! !! I'M SICK OF IT!! !! !! !! !! I was curious if anyone else has this experience.

"We'll do it this weekend" is final, I think your dad thinks you're trying to take his authority. If you said it more softly, like "we could do it this weekend", it leaves room for your dad to correct it, so he wouldn't need to feel threatened.

Yeah, pretty much. But I say much dumber things than that, and I actually deserve to have eyes rolled at me or to be laughed at most of the time. Sometimes I don't think I do. My thoughts just fall out of my speaking hole. I don't think that making a suggestion like yours would warrant the reaction you got. My dad used to blame me if anything went wrong in his house. If his computer was acting awry, I did something to it, if something was broken, it was obviously me who broke it. If he forgot to lock the door at night, it was my fault for not catching it or locking it...I was a scapegoat at my dad's house, basically (thank god my parents were divorced).

Did something happen earlier? If there was an argument earlier that might explain it. It seems totally uncalled for though, regardless.

Is this your house or his? If it's yours (and your kids) then he was downright rude, he may be your Dad but if it's your house it's your rules. If it's his house, it's still very rude but his house his rules. If my Mum was harsh like that to me, I'd ask her what was the story, why was she acting that way and talking quietly about it (unless she is in tantrum mode, and then it's evasive manuvers).