Do you feel your difference?

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1) In your daily life, about how many times do you feel that you are different from the average people (in other words "NT's) around you"?
2) Is that cause because of your place on the autism spectrum?
3) Does your feelings frequent, and they affect your daily life

My answers;
1) Many times that i can't count
2) Because of Aspergers
3) When I see some things, (many times) I think this way;"I am not able to do that thing because my difference!" (mostly to be in the condition that I see, being a more social person needed)

Last edited by hiddenname on 15 Jan 2010, 4:39 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I can't remember not feeling like I didn't fit. Even as a small child.

A little different but not much anymore. I'm not around people much anyway.
Yes
No because I don't let it. I am laid back and don't care.

Every time I see two of them have a conversation. Every time I try to have a conversation with one or think about whether I should try to have a conversation with one.

very. neurotypical people are so lucky, i watch them have relationships and friends and be able to go to places on public transport and i want to be able to do those things but i can't and i never will be i wish i was normal and i'm sick of having to hide wanting to be normal because other autistic people might not respect me as much if i admited it.

I WANT TO BE LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE. I WANT TO HAVE ALL THE THINGS THEY HAVE!
there i said it.

This is a point that everyone hides and that is in their real thoughts.
Actually, this "being like normal people" thing makes me to do more research about AS, and to learn what actually makes us different, and those findings will show me the way (at least i wish) to quit the behaivors that makes me different (not all of them, bezause I still want to be myself on someway).

THIS MY MAIN REASON ON BEING IN THIS FORUM!

1) Yes and no. My feeling tends to be that others don't fit in with me. It's others that are strange and frequently foolish, not I. (Not that I'm infallible, of course) It might be a little self-centered, I admit, but it works for me.
2) It's because I am who I am, and they are not like me. Autism to me, doesn't mean much. It's an external point of view. I know myself best, and I don't really ever think about "autism" as much as I do "my personality".
3) Not in the way I think you mean. I've got no self-esteem issues, or anything of the sort. My feelings influence my daily life, of course, but as I said I don't think about autism much.

I have NEVER EVER felt anything other than a little different from others.
I have never felt the same as others.
The key is the acceptance of this as a fact in my life.
I'm getting there - belatedly - at 47. And it feels ok and rather nice to have some peace around this issue.

All the time. There is never a moment when I'm not aware of my deficiencies. I never felt like I belonged or fit in and don't expect I ever will. It's difficult to not have social skills or adequate communication skills. People don't understand and I feel helpless to make them understand. It's like a transparent wall which completely isolates me. I can see everything but I can't interact or relate. I haven't managed to adequately learn the rules either.

I often feel "out of sync" with people. There will be times where I'm only slightly out of sync with others and other times where I wonder if I'm some sort of alien. LOL

It actually affects me significantly. I go out of my house rarely.....pretty much only for necessary things. I don't socialize much in real life.

Not really. But I've always been around people like me, so it was never really hard for me to make friends or keep them. Although maybe it was just school that was keeping us together.

I do feel my difference, while embracing it at the same time. I move to the beat of a different drum.

I feel I do not fit both while having a conversation and when I see other's having conversations. Lately that topic has been depressing for me. I can't recall the last time I have had a normal conversation. Sometimes I get very sad when I see groups of friends, because I don't think I will ever have that.

1) Almost all of the time, but there are a few select individuals I mesh with.

2) I think it's important to recognize that Asperger's is a syndrome. It's a label you use after the fact, a collection of noticed symptoms. We're autistic because of our behavior; we don't behave the way we do because we're autistic. That's like saying a 40 khz wave is spaced out the way it is because it is a 40 khz wave. Obviously, that's ridiculous. It's just called 40 khz because of the spacing of the wave crests.

3) It's hard to say how frequent the feeling of alienation occurs. It's something I've become accustomed to, a relatively constant presence.

^I'm not autistic because of my behavior. The so-called behavior is a product of autism. Autism came first. I also don't consider it a behavior issue. It's much more complex than that. As for "behavior", I'm better behaved than many or most NT's.

How many times a day do I feel that I'm completely different from normal people? I could count on one hand the number of times in my life I've believed I might have some hope of being remotely normal. Whenever I interact with anybody it's blatantly obvious (to me, at least.. probably to most people, too) that there's something not right with me.