Can you "feel" an emotional connection w/ someone?

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This is something I've noticed in my life and I was wondering if this is a common observation for aspies. There are people who are "empathic", and there's something about their voice, their facial expressions or their responses that indicate they "completely understand" you and there's a certain invisible emotional connection that you can "feel" -- I don't really know how to describe it, you just kind of "know it". Some people have this 'empathic gift', and many people don't and it's certainly a gift that I'd feel extremely lucky to have but I don't really think I "have what it takes".

Has anyone else noticed this? There's a group of people in this world who are naturally empathic and you can "feel the connection"?

I have trouble feeling that connection, the only exception was with my son. With most people I can feel what I feel about or for them but cannot feel what they think or feel about or for me. It makes for a lonely life sometimes but I am getting used to it.

I'm able to feel emotioal connections with other people. I'm able to tell how they feel and what to say to comfort them.

There is no 'connection' to 'feel'. If you experience any feelings of 'connectedness', it is likely that you merely recognize in the other person similar traits that are evident in other people that you like.

The feelings are the result of endorphins and hormones flooding your brain as you begin to associate with the person you feel 'connected' to. Then you likely conceptualize these pleasant feelings into the belief that the person feels the same way about you, and then begin to fantasize how the two of you will consummate these feelings, beliefs, and concepts.

This is called "Falling in Love" or "Having a Crush".

It's all brain chemistry and self-induced delusion.

I am not sure what an emotional connection is. I know sometimes I am happy about talking to someone about things we have in common, but I do not think or assume that this means there is some kind of connection, or that I feel anything I would call a connection.

Perhaps if someone could define it a bit more clearly?

I often feel a sense of detachment from those around me. I can form bonds of friendship, but there is always distance in my relationships. To me it seems that there is a certain bridge that I just cannot cross, no matter how close I get to someone.

Some days it makes me sad. Other days I'm content to just being in my own little world.

I feel detachment, too.

I hate that feeling where I'm too close emotiomally, to somebody. It make me feel "violated" as if my space is being intruded. I think it's the same reason why I hate looking at people I don't know directly into their eyes, why I hate being hugged or even holding or shaking hands.

I feel attachment to people I know and feel safe around. Based on experience these people are reliable and the behaviour is somewhat predictable.

As for empathy, I think there are some people who are sensitive to small changes in the environment and people around them. They are then able to appropriately react to these observations, which gives the impression that someone "completely understands." I think that for us, it takes much more time to learn how to react to these changes appropriately, and sometimes we never learn how or can't adapt what we've learned to new variations in the situation.

I was not aware that people were meant to feel anything like this... I'm kind of confused. That said, no, I do not feel anything toward other people. I don't cry when they're sad, and I don't rejoice when they're happy. I am what I am, totally independent of what they are.

Yes, I've had this on occasion with specific individuals.