Talking about problems with other people

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I can't seem to express myself to people. If I get asked if "I am okay?", after my Dad has worked out something is wrong, I give back 1 word answers or very short statements expecting him to understand. Another good example is when, someone tells my dad, after they have talked to me about my past ect, that he needs to sit down and talk to me. When he does sit me down and asked me to talk to him, I can only reply "I don't know what say, I am fine."

I think he gets annoyed at me not talking to him about stuff and how people who have known me for only a short period of time know more about the problems I have than he does. He asks why I don't tell him stuff but the only reply I can give him is "You don't ask me the right questions for me to be able to explain"

Is there anyway, you guys can think of, to help me open up and find it easier to talk about my problems?

Yes, I send emails to my mum. I find it a lot easier to express myself in words on paper than from my mouth. There is usually the awful part afterwords when she comes and speaks to me about what I've sent her but in the long run I think it does help me a little bit to know she understands more what is happening. I don't like making other people upset but through the majority of this year I have been struggling a lot with many many things. I need to tell her even if I end up in tears while I'm doing it.

Yes I have the exact same problem. I find it near to impossible to talk about my problems/feelings with people. Almost everyday I plan out a whole speech my head explaining my problems to tell to someone but as soon as I'm around someone I suddenly don't feel the need to tell them. I went to a psychologist this year and it was a horrible experience, I could only answer her with yes, no and I don't know and the whole time I was there I was shaking.
Although recently I've started becoming more open with my friends, like every now and then I quickly mention in conversation something that's worrying me but in a very low key way.
What you have to do is slowly open up to someone. Its easier to mention it in light conversation but you have to push yourself.

im the same way
I just keep everything to myself though thats probably not healthy

I'm sorry, but can I get one example of a problem you have trouble communicating? I know it's an ironic question. But I can usually come up with concise, clever ways to make things make sense to other people. Or I can try.

Except to my dad. But that's cause he just doesn't give a s**t.

You both have just described pretty much my primary problem in life! I don't come close to meeting any diagnostic criteria, but I wish I could just because of this one problem which is holding me back so badly. My partner and I have huge fights and arguments because I'm desperate for support and understanding and he hasn't got a clue what's wrong or what I need or what I want to make me happy. I seem to be completely incapable of confiding in anyone.



Brock, if I've understood the others as well as I think I have, this won't help. It's not a question of formulating sentences or finding the right words to communicate. It's possibly more a case of selective mutism except that in my experience I can say all sorts of things, I just can't get my my brain to light up or my tongue to waggle enough to convey the *one* thing I actually want to say. Somehow, the more important or meaningful it is, the more impossible it becomes. I've had some success in writing too, mainly via msn messenger, but that can only go so far. It's really hard to explain why this issue is so difficult.

I dont like talking about my problems. even when I do want help I have no idea how to ask.

I'm exactly the same. It's very rarely I can ever say anything asides I'm fine to someone. Even if I want help.

i love to talk to people and share my problems but whenever i am in a group etc in office i am tongue tied....and usually people are not good listeners so the conversation ends fast.
my mom and bro barely talk.
my hubby is selective listener
so ((

I'm pretty good at eventually expressing problems that I have to Chris. It might take a while, but I'll get there.

Anyone else, though? Pfft.