Being Able to Confide in People

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Do you have people that you can confide in offline and do you think that they can give you better advice/relate better than friends you’ve made online?

For instance, if you’re dealing with a complex, personal problem that you need some feedback on, is it better for you to talk with someone who knows you in person or can you get better feedback from someone you’ve met on a forum?

Depends. Once you have learned eye contact right and et people emitionally than you know when somebody is lying to make you feel more comfortable or really honest to you. Within the forum you have contact to more people but don't really know them nor get them emotionally. But as long as there are some great people online (like us ) then you may get more responses and among them also some better suggestions online.

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I have some good friends I can confide to in that way.

I find it difficult. However I can confide in God and my Mum.
I can open up with God.
About humans... Umm. I have opened up a huge amount on this site.

I rarely ever confide to anyone related to things deeper than the obvious nuisances of life.
Because those nuisances, so far, are what most people could ever relate to or understand. Anything else beyond that requires things that most people would never considered experiencing or knowing.



Never had confided to anyone related to things I had deeply felt or believed in a sense that almost no one would ever dare talking about personally.
Ever since I was young, I've been obsessed with keeping things to myself.

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^ I can relate very much to the above post. I've had very few friendships in my life, and they tend to run into particular difficulties at the point when I'm expected to 'confide in' someone or vice versa. I couldn't even confide in members of my own family. I'm also hopeless at giving advice or showing concern for another person's difficulties (though I do feel concern for them).

I find it easiest to talk about factual and topical matters - shared interests, sport, politics etc. Things even get a bit uncomfortable when the other person starts talking about such things as their family and job, and I tend to find my eyes glazing over and my mind wandering off.

Sometimes wish I could 'fake it' in these situations, but I just can't.

yes, many of the good people of WP. it has saved me many times now

I'd say that speaking to someone I actually know would probably give better results, but it's easier to open my mouth online because people I don't actually know personally can't betray my trust the same way that people I know IRL could.

The things I can't share with my mother... Yes. I don't have anyone else on a human level. The past attempts to try to share or ask I have had to shutmoff because others done't want to hear.

I don't think there's a difference as long as they know me well. It's just harder to know the whole picture online.