Anyone Feel Immature for Their Age?

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I’ve never fit in with my age group growing up. I’m both mature and immature at the same time. For example, as a teen I loved old music (classical and 60s pop) , never went clubbing or to parties, and dressed and behaved like an adult.

I'm 37 now, and I still like watching cartoons, love playing video games, and I love toys. I can get along very well with young children and play well with them. Like a child, I’m perfectly happy just to stop and stare at insects in a park, poke them with a twig, see what happens.

I’m terrible with money, don’t have a stock portfolio like my NT peers, and generally am not interested in their adult pursuits like wine, golf, sport or current events. I still feel like a kid but all this immaturity is hidden. On the outside I just seem like a very serious and private person. Only my immediate family sees the immature side of me.

Sometimes I feel like a 10-year-old. Other days, I feel like I am 50. But I never feel like my actual age.

I certainly was accused of being immature for my age while I was growing up, mainly because of social naivety and not "getting" social interaction, and my parents always reckoned I was 4 years behind in social development.

Now, as an adult and having discovered Asperger's, I realise it isn't a matter of being mature or immature. It's just a matter of being different and quirky, and as my friends are any age between about 20 and 70 it isn't a question of being behind or ahead on emotional age or whatever.