Why do some people not want us?
And, to further expound on what Nick said, they are shallow minded, and unwilling to look beyond their preconceived notions, and educate themselves. If they would, they would truly find some very special people worthy of love and companionship.
I don't agree. Some people just wouldn't be a good match with Aspergians and it wouldn't be fair to call them shallow or ineducated for that.
Perhaps, in some cases yes, but we are talking in terms of GP, and what would you call it, when someone judges a group based on a stereo type, without learning about a person first?
In many cases the NT mightn't know the autistic person is autistic. In these cases they can't reject them due to a negative stereotype because they can't associate a stereotype about autism with that person.
In many cases when the NT knows about autism the reason why they reject them mightn't be a stereotype.
If you are already dating someone, tell them about your autism and get rejected right after that, then you can be sure the reason was a stereotype but in most other cases you can't.
Or are we talking about NTs who say online or elsewhere they would never date an autistic person. Many of them have a negative and simplistic stereotype about autism but I've seen this so few times I'd assume the majority of NTs never thinks about whether they'd date an autistic person or not.
And, to further expound on what Nick said, they are shallow minded, and unwilling to look beyond their preconceived notions, and educate themselves. If they would, they would truly find some very special people worthy of love and companionship.
I don't agree. Some people just wouldn't be a good match with Aspergians and it wouldn't be fair to call them shallow or ineducated for that.
Perhaps, in some cases yes, but we are talking in terms of GP, and what would you call it, when someone judges a group based on a stereo type, without learning about a person first?
What is GP? Why do people always use ancoyms and assume that other people understand them?
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And, to further expound on what Nick said, they are shallow minded, and unwilling to look beyond their preconceived notions, and educate themselves. If they would, they would truly find some very special people worthy of love and companionship.
I don't agree. Some people just wouldn't be a good match with Aspergians and it wouldn't be fair to call them shallow or ineducated for that.
Perhaps, in some cases yes, but we are talking in terms of GP, and what would you call it, when someone judges a group based on a stereo type, without learning about a person first?
In many cases the NT mightn't know the autistic person is autistic. In these cases they can't reject them due to a negative stereotype because they can't associate a stereotype about autism with that person.
In many cases when the NT knows about autism the reason why they reject them mightn't be a stereotype.
If you are already dating someone, tell them about your autism and get rejected right after that, then you can be sure the reason was a stereotype but in most other cases you can't.
Or are we talking about NTs who say online or elsewhere they would never date an autistic person. Many of them have a negative and simplistic stereotype about autism but I've seen this so few times I'd assume the majority of NTs never thinks about whether they'd date an autistic person or not.
Ok, so when would it be necessary to tell someone you are autistic? People don't like being with people who "seem wrong" to them. You can just hang out with someone for a little while and if you get a bad vibe from them, you don't hang out with them anymore. Is it possible autistics send a "wrong vibe" even if it's unintentional? Can this be fixed through learned behavior? And if you can mask those distinctively autistic tendencies, is it even worth it to tell a potential partner that you're autistic?
The reflection looking up toward the individual, "Why do autistics not want relationships other autistics?"
A lot of us do want relationships with other autistics, including me.
It's usually autistic women who don't want to date other autistics often for same reason Nt women dont.
I'm not sure I'd want to date an aspie woman to be honest. It'd depend on if they'll the no touching rude types. One I tried to was very pushy and then rude. And I need lots of touching. Suppose if she's not rude and likes touching and sex it could work.
I'm not sure I'd want to date an aspie woman to be honest. It'd depend on if they'll the no touching rude types. One I tried to was very pushy and then rude. And I need lots of touching. Suppose if she's not rude and likes touching and sex it could work.
I feel exactly the same way with men. Even the ones who really wanted me but didn't like touch, no, lack of appreciation for touch is a huge dealbreaker for me.
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I'm not sure I'd want to date an aspie woman to be honest. It'd depend on if they'll the no touching rude types. One I tried to was very pushy and then rude. And I need lots of touching. Suppose if she's not rude and likes touching and sex it could work.
I feel exactly the same way with men. Even the ones who really wanted me but didn't like touch, no, lack of appreciation for touch is a huge dealbreaker for me.
Glad I'm not alone. Seems lots of aspie don't like any touch.
I'm not sure I'd want to date an aspie woman to be honest. It'd depend on if they'll the no touching rude types. One I tried to was very pushy and then rude. And I need lots of touching. Suppose if she's not rude and likes touching and sex it could work.
I feel exactly the same way with men. Even the ones who really wanted me but didn't like touch, no, lack of appreciation for touch is a huge dealbreaker for me.
Glad I'm not alone. Seems lots of aspie don't like any touch.
From all the aspies I've met, which are many - no, a lot of them don't.
As for me, I'm comfortable with touch if I really trust them well.
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I've left WP.
The reflection looking up toward the individual, "Why do autistics not want relationships other autistics?"
I'm wishing that I could find another autistic person to be in a relationship with. Most NTs that I meet make fun of my "unusual" viewpoints and behavior. I really don't want to change and don't see anything wrong with me, but it really hurts to be viewed as weird and strange by everyone around you.
Speak for yourself. I'm so cool you could keep a side of beef in me for a month. I'm so hip I can barely see over my pelvis...
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I'm bored out of my skull, let's play a different game. Let's pay a visit down below and cast the world in flame.
Nothing but negatives compared to normals so why wouldn't they go for the successful normal people
I wouldn't say that Aspergians in general are not successful. Just because you aren't, it doesn't mean that most are like you.
Most aren't. That's statistics. Yes a few like dox or raptor and some others are. But there's not a lot of upper middle class or rich aspies.
To say mental health issues are 'different for everyone' and 'some don't have it as bad' is a true statement in itself, but implies that just because some people with mental health issues are functioning 'better', this means they aren't 'struggling' and don't 'deserve' help because they're not doing bad anyway, and thus marginalizes the issues of those with mental health issues.
If you want the facts, Aspies have higher rates of being LGBTA compared to the general population (and, of course, all the drawbacks that come with that).
We may have a higher divorce rate:
The fact some of us don't get the help we need, which is also a fact according to some of the below studies, also would mean we'd struggle if we can't get help with treatment.
On work and education:
Sources:
[1]: http://journals.plos.org/plosone/articl ... ne.0087961
[2]: http://www.healthguideinfo.com/asperger ... e/p118376/
[3]: https://www.autismspectrum.org.au/conte ... y-findings
[4]: http://www.autism-society.org/what-is/f ... tatistics/
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