Seeing the people you've dated

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For the record I have only officially dated 1 girl.

I met up with her for the first time in a while after we broke up. I mean, we're still friends, but it feels awkward to be around her now. I think she feels the same away as well.

That is a common feeling among ex dates. Part of the reason why is because someone may still have feelings for the other and can't move on (Possibly doesn't want to move on) while the other wants to move on. That causes some awkwardness, especially if you are still trying to communicate in the same manner that you used to.

Now of course, communication is the bigger factor. Things get awkward if you dont know how to communicate with eachother after a breakup either. You simply can't communicate like a couple anymore and have to communicate like friends. This takes some getting used to.

Being only friends with somebody I broke up with would be impossible. It doesn't have so much to do with "communication", rather that I have no easy way of breaking up an attachment. Thus, if I meet somebody I once had an romantic attachment to, I would still have it even if we broke up, and that will make it impossible to be only friends. IOW, I have no way back from romantic attachment to friend (or unknown person). I don't think I even have a concept of friend. Seems neurotypical to me.

Yeah, that can happen. Sometimes people part on good terms and there are no hard feeling, but if there's unfinished business or they regret what happened it can be pretty uncomfortable. I once sat between two people who'd just broken up and were still angry on a Halloween hayride. It was weird.