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Tim_Tex
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31 May 2009, 10:04 am

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I have been manipulated by a friend. Yet she doesn't want people doing it to her. To her, manipulating her is anything other than playing by her rules and being totally submissive to her. The rule is basically "Whatever she says goes".


Who's your friend? I know someone who lives in San Marcos, who's controlling/manipulative. In fact, I know a couple of girls there like that!


She doesn't live in San Marcos. It's someone I had corresponded with a while back.



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31 May 2009, 11:24 am

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For Pete's sake Operative Cornflakes, plull yourself together. Don't get sloppy now, the objective is to infatuate through assimilation.

Make sure you remember to remove your night vision goggles when out in public. With 20+ hours field recognisance mistakes like that can happen. Unfortunately you will be dispensed if they do.


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31 May 2009, 12:22 pm

I was never manipulative in any sense or form but I was manipulated by some people many times especially during the old school days.


Nope, ...unfortunately, I never had this ability to manipulate others.



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31 May 2009, 6:18 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Johnklok wrote:
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I have been manipulated by a friend. Yet she doesn't want people doing it to her. To her, manipulating her is anything other than playing by her rules and being totally submissive to her. The rule is basically "Whatever she says goes".


Who's your friend? I know someone who lives in San Marcos, who's controlling/manipulative. In fact, I know a couple of girls there like that!


She doesn't live in San Marcos. It's someone I had corresponded with a while back.


Ah. See one is a good friend, the other is an on and off friend for several years, mainly because she hangs out w/diff people than me and my other friends. Chances are small but I was going to see if you knew one of them, and tell them: "John is straight, no matter what!"(inside joke, sort of).



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31 May 2009, 7:37 pm

I've always wanted other people's reaction to me to be honest. Even though it's usually negative. Having said that I've been thinking of going over to the dark side lately and see how well I can manipulate them. Honest reactions really haven't gotten me anywhere.


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07 Jun 2009, 10:43 am

No I do manipulate people and 99.9% of the time am very proud of it. I like to play men off against one another; particularly the charming,cheeky type. I like to show I have control, power and make them fel small and inferior! :D Manipulation only works if the person(s) you are manipulating are uder your spell totally!! lol!!



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07 Jun 2009, 8:06 pm

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No I do manipulate people and 99.9% of the time am very proud of it. I like to play men off against one another; particularly the charming,cheeky type. I like to show I have control, power and make them fel small and inferior! :D Manipulation only works if the person(s) you are manipulating are uder your spell totally!! lol!!


Hate to burst your bubble, but most women have that gift. They're called breasts and unfortunately, most guys are magically hypnotized by them.



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13 Jul 2010, 2:36 am

Being manipulative requires malicious intent; do those who feel that way act in that capacity? Do you use others for your own benefit besides social; to exploit others for your advantage, for money; to hurt others, for power games? If the answer is no, then your not. I feel the same way whenever break out of my shell and engage socially; I feel like I'm pushing all the right buttons and eliciting the right responses; it feels foreign because it is so abnormal and as someone says fundamentally dishonest to your character but NTs as you say intuitively do it. And as you have learned how to become experts in any field you are simply learning a new one that due to having aspgers feels fraudulent. So I would say that by the definition and extension of the word you are not manipulative.



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13 Jul 2010, 2:17 pm

lol anna banana!! !! ! wazaaaaa?
Thanks mase for digging a thread of hers from the graveyard.

As for you miss banana, you can always manipulate me ,baby ;).