Do you think people judge you by the way you look?

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I think they judge me. I think the nature of my problem is a little bit different than most other Aspies out there, too. At heart I am a nerd and I keep trying to make friends with other nerds but they never seem to want to talk to me or add me into the nerd group. I think the problem is that for some reason they can't detect that I am a fellow nerd, possibly because of my physical appearance. I look like a jock. I'm on the basketball team at my college, and I think the nerds have stereotyped me as a brainless jock because of this. I can't get along with the jocks because I don't know how to talk to girls so they all think that I'm gay because they have never seen me with a girl, but the nerds want nothing to do with me because they think that I am a jock. Maybe they're not as nerdy as I thought, that's pretty closed minded of them in my book, are they too dumb and closed-minded or is there something I can do about this? Does anyone else have a similar problem?

Yes, they judge me. And I sardonically judge them back.

Ya, but like its been said, I normally judged back.

Though, over recent time, I've judged less people and if they judge me, who cares?

People judge me on the way I look, and how I act combined.

Of course they do. It is how a stranger "determines" your personality before they even know you. This contributes to the Fundamental Attribution Error.

Unfortunately, the answer is yes. You appearance plays a huge role in how you are percieved. It's not fair, but that's the way it is.

How big is your college and how much do students know/care about basketball? Ie. Does the 'nerd' crowd care enough about it to know who you are?

It's a small college, about 1300 people. I don't advertise the fact that I'm on the team, but, people automatically know because I sometimes have to get an excused absence for a road game. I think it would be easier if I had a way to hide the fact that I'm on the team but I'm not going to leave the team just because of this. I like playing, the coach would be really pissed at me if I quit, and after their response I hate them too. The others on the team are probably just a bunch of stool pushers who wish I was gay like them so they could hit on me (ever been in a men's locker room, pretty gay place). The infuriating thing about it is that I bet that some of the nerds who are judging me on my appearance may be the only other aspies at the damn school, reducing my chances of making any friends there, ever. If it keeps like this it'll be a long 3 and a half years to go.

I have no idea if I am judged on how I look and I do not care other than that I get men tending to hover around me a lot, like bloody vultures.

I don't get judged on my apperance, just my behavoir.

Of course they do. They've been trained to. I'd be surprised if a single one of them didn't.

Eh, don't feel bad everybody!
No one at my HS likes me either but I'm not complaining!
Someone sees me limping down a hallway {I have a very bad knee} and in their head goes, "Creepy Dude at 2:00! RUN!"

I don't look, act, or sound distrubed only that I have a form of sleep apnea and I dress looking like I resemble someone who works at the UN.

No worries. IGNORE THE HATE!

People judge me on my personality because I'm a bit bizarre. That mixed with my looks gets people's attention. Negatively.

Yeah of course. When I had blonde hair, I was treated like I was thick, now I get treated like I'm a bit more classy for being brunette. But then men assume that I want sex because I'm pretty. And that I diet because I'm slim. And that I don't tell rude jokes because I 'don't look like the sort that would'. Yeah, I get judged for the way I look all the time.

When my hair was really short I got a lot of attention for it, and now that it's longer I get a different kind of attention. I don't like how people treat you differently when you don't look normal.

I don't "look" like I have AS. I only act like it, sometimes.