Graelwyn wrote:
I think one needs to bear in mind that there are 2 sides of every story and one cannot judge the mother who's side we have not heard. Also there could be multiple reasons for Mage not being allowed out...to consider it to be an issue neglect, just like that, is being very one sided and not taking other factors into consideration. Also, one might like to remember the money situation...just how do you expect her to do much when she has no money?
Mum and Nanna are both doing the best they can. Life is never perfect but yours is a long way from being bad. You are suffering from being fifteen going on sixteen. Any girl your age is a half child half woman and needs a protected life. There are bad things out there.
When my kid was your age all the adults worked in teams to keep watch. By the time she was seventeen she fully joined the watching. She resented me, who she loves, because I showed up at unexpected times and places. She accused me of spying for her mother, that was true, but her mother is a small person, I showed up to show there was a large man watching over her, word gets around.
It is not like I have a supply of midteen girls to watch over, it was a one time event and I did just what every other adult did. It comes naturally. I spoiled her for ten years and used it all when she was fifteen sixteen. At seventeen she was near adult when it came to protecting herself, by the end of the year she had a car, she thought she was all grown, but within a week she put the grill of her beautiful car into a back bumper, knocked off two hub caps, and the first thing she did was call Mom on her cell phone.
She just turned eighteen, now she is someone else, one of us, and realizes that her Mom full time took care of her every hour of every day for eighteen years, and I drove several hundred miles to come see her once a month, brought her presents, took pictures, took her out for chicken strips, all she would eat, and ice cream. I gave her twelve days a year when she had a man in her life, for thirteen years. That is about a half of a year. I spend thousands, drove many hours, because that is what adults do for children.
We all have jobs, hers was to grow up and educated herself. You are not done with the growing, you still need Mum and Nanna. In a year and a half or two, you will be another person. That is what parenting is all about, getting you there.
You are educating yourself, your last Mage drawing is much better than your early work, you have talent. It is good you are on WP, because you write a lot. There is still more, the things school teaches, and those are books you should read. The University is the only place you can develop Computer Graphics Design, and to get in you need to pass Math and English. You are out of school, but not out of the need for education. You have time and talent, learn what it will take to get in the University, and prepare yourself.
You will be another person when you are eighteen, she will see the world through new eyes, don't let her down, don't crush her dreams, your job is to protect her future. Parenting can only take them so far, the rest comes from within, I like you because you have drive, dreams, ambition, and you speak your mind. You have a good start, but you still have to pass the math test to become the University RedMage.
If I was around I would not let you out of my sight, I would spy for Mum and Nanna, and tell you to do your homework, all adults are the same, and in a few years you will be one.
We all are taking care of the future RedMage, but only you can develop the inner RedMage.
23 Apr 2007, 12:49 am
