I sometimes feel hopeless as though it's too late

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I feel like sometimes I get feelings of hopelessness because I'm feeling behind other people. From what the AI chatbot told me, most 35 year olds are married and so on and so it reinforced feeling that I AM alone. I do get irritated by internal thoughts that seem like they are telling me to "hurry up, find a partner, get married etc" but I don't feel like rushing things and I feel like it just increases anxiety. I can't understand why I have these thoughts and yet I don't actively want to use dating sites/apps if it's what's itching on my mind.

I get very stressed out when I feel rushed. I find that I have a similar problem of looking at other people's lives and wondering why my own isn't like theirs. Lately I have been working on reminding myself that I am a completely different person who has lived a completely different life from the people that I am comparing myself to. It is okay to take your time and as someone who is divorced already at 27 I highly recommend not stressing yourself out worrying about it and just make sure that you focus on yourself first. When we really want something we may be quick to sacrifice pieces of ourselves to make it happen without realizing what is going on.

We need to remember that comparison is the thief of joy! !!

I have found myself stuck in the same endless loop of comparing my life progression to my friends' and neighbors' ESPECIALLY when it comes to the "marriage goal"!

I am just out of an engagement with my recently-deceased fiance David and had he survived until April, we most likely would have gotten married if the outcome was different

The marriage goal is 100% overrated Chris and you should instead start chasing fulfillment in other life sectors like a career

People find their partner at different ages. I'm 51 and someone just started taking an interest in me. They're homeless but they're someone.

Yes, i know the feeling. Actually i gave up on any attempts to date. For people my age, i am too childish and inexperienced. They want someone who knows how to live a life, or has experience in relationship. For younger people, i am just physically old and unattractive due to my body. So there is nothing to look forward to, if i ever had any chances of intimate interactions - they are passed.

I definitely feel more stress the older I get. When I was younger I just always assumed of a course a romantic relationship would eventually happen.

Now as I am approaching forty I have still never been in a relationship and being in a relationship feels farther away than ever

That said I have not given up. Being in a romantic relationship is still my biggest goal in life

I would love to find the right person to share my life with. If anyone would like to chat I would love that

Sometimes in my head, I feel like just giving up and thinking what's the point of getting back on a dating app if I've got to now without a relationship. Even feel like people won't be interested if I've got less experience, I mean it's like if I never had a job up to now, no one will want to employ me with not much employment history.