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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: If you believe you are very low status material... |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 22 Jun 2012, 1:40 am
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Replies: 46
Views: 6,191
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| Wolfheart, I, too am a Wolf. And I think I love you. LOL! NT girls are not all dismissive of Aspies, we just have to learn about you and meet you somewhere in the middle. My Aspie bf today, when he saw the latest box of hair color I had purchased said:"Why don't you let nature win. It always does ev... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspies and terms of endearment |
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Posted: 21 Apr 2012, 1:19 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 6,683
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| Bahahaha! That video even made ME squirm uncomfortably. Chipmunk? Seriously? My Aspie hates terms of endearment, too. He seems to tolerate "dear" pretty well. I can get away with about 2 dears and 1 some other term like "my love". Baby and Sweetie get the big thumbs down. I try to be mindful and res... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie guys - can you relate to this behavior? |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 20 Apr 2012, 6:45 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 8,107
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| Wow, Happy2know, this is almost exactly the situation I am in with my Aspie. We have known each other for almost two years and we have been best friends/asexual invisible relationship partners for about 6 months. We used to meet at the gym, too, he is a pro and I am a novice...the similarities are a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What's wrong with me? |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2012, 9:20 am
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Replies: 12
Views: 3,960
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| That sort of thing happens all the time, aspie or not. No one can explain it other than he probably didn't know what he wanted. I have never been the "Starter" girlfriend, but I have seen it over and over. I don't sleep with anyone until love is evident, but you may not have either. I'm sorry for yo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Atheism and friendship |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 11 Apr 2012, 9:17 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,959
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| You live in the Middle east? Probably have to tread a little more carefully than in the West! I have a friend who is Agnostic and one who is an Atheist. They both claim to be Taoists. Seems to appease most people. Of course, most people don't look into it any further. As far as I am concerned, I am ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Continually approached, but I reject everyone. Why??? |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 9:19 am
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Replies: 83
Views: 11,812
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| Nothing is wrong with you. I do this too. You know who does it for you. I seem to only like guys that I have to chase. If they approach me, it doesn't fit my litmus test. I am an alpha female. I enjoy clubbing a guy over the head and dragging him back to my cave. Is that so wrong? Maybe you are an a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What kind of relationship does an average aspie get. |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2012, 9:08 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 3,367
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| I think you can have the relationship you want. You just have to realize that it isn't magic. It is work. Fun work, lovely, lovely work. As in the song, "Nice work if you can get it, and you can get it if you try." If at first you don't succeed....hide in your apartment? I think you know the answer ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: So lonely in love with an Aspie!! |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2012, 9:22 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 2,574
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| I know exactly how you feel. I call it push/pull. Drives me crazy. Makes me ask myself: Am I strong enough to be with this man? Then just when I want to give up, he says or does something that makes me sure again. They don't have to say they love you. They may even deny it sometimes. But you know it... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Feeling narcissistic/insecure. Am I attractive? |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 11:08 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 5,033
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| You are gorgeous! Smooth skin, beautiful eyes, full, luscious lips. Hot hot hot. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you think you can help me appear less desperate? |
| DrDiva |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 12:18 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 3,234
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Glad you found my words inspiring.
And *laugh* ....if I would have followed the advice of touching, eye contact and stepping into personal space my aspie would have run for the hills!! ! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you think you can help me appear less desperate? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2012, 10:47 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 3,234
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| Here's a little tip from an NT woman: Be interesting yourself. Pursue the things that truly interest you with passion and energy, and the right person will appear effortlessly. You have to love yourself and be true to yourself. Pretending to like something in order to attract women is a recipe for m... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Complications of aspie friend, and so on... |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2012, 1:36 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,599
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| I know, I didn't set up this dynamic on purpose, he has actually done most of it himself. I almost feel like he's been asking me for help as a kind of way into my life. He has had countless people reject him and take advantage of him. He was very depressed and we were all worried, now he is doing mu... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Complications of aspie friend, and so on... |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2012, 10:27 pm
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Replies: 10
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| yes, when he came home last weekend I told him that I thought he was worth so much more than what she had to give him. Doesn't seem to have hit the mark at all. ) : |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Complications of aspie friend, and so on... |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2012, 7:27 pm
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Replies: 10
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| Would it be better to ask him straight up how he feels about our life together and if he sees us becoming closer, and if that would be a good thing? I don't want to overwhelm him. I feel like I've done everything wrong and yet he is still here and hasn't run. Just frustrating to feel inert. Yes, I k... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Complications of aspie friend, and so on... |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2012, 6:35 pm
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Replies: 10
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| wow, that's really amazing. Of course I would like to have sex with him EVENTUALLY. Just not sure how he feels about me really. Not sure if he even knows how he feels about me. I am not looking for a casual sex relationship, I am all in or I'd rather not do it. Plus, I have my own personal morals to... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Complications of aspie friend, and so on... |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2012, 1:20 pm
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Replies: 10
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| My best friend, who I just found out from his father is a high functioning aspie, moved in with me about a month ago. We have been besties for about 6 months and known each other/had an attraction to each other for about 20 months. I am supposedly NT, and I am female. I have a doctoral degree in mus... |
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